Emotions are a big part of life! Problem is they are kind of tricky for kids. This is why they need you to be their coach! We often teach our kids rules and what is right or wrong, but sometimes big emotions derail their best intentions. Not only this big emotions unmanaged can get in the way of other important development.
According to Dr. John Gottman, a child's cognitive development is connected to emotional well-being. "The way a child connects to their parent emotionally can skyrocket their intelligence if the emotional security is there." So this is important stuff! Every child needs to be LISTENED to, VALIDATED, and RESPECTED.
Dr. Gottman gave 5 steps to help you coach your child through emotions. They are:
1. NOTICE your child's emotions
2. Help them to feel UNDERSTOOD
3. Help them LABEL what they feel. (They don't have the word bank to do this.)
4. UNDERSTAND them.
5. Limit behaviors if needed.
Relationships and emotional connection are the foundation for learning. It is critical to give respect when we are under stress. In this way we build a secure relationship that will ensure connectivity with our child so they can develop healthy habits and relationships.
Watch the following video to see an introduction on this critical principle.
Note: Gottman, John. (2014, May 17). Emotion Coaching: The Heart of Parenting - The Gottman Institute. Retrieved from https://youtu.be/v0vj9Z4kpEk
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